Refocus

Setting goals is easy, the journey to the goal is the hard part. After a 90 day focused journey to change my habits the hardest part was sticking to it.

For me, when I start out I go hard. Tracking my every move, weekly check-ins all the things that are supposed to help you reach your goals. However, after the fire under me dims, im two weeks in and don’t see any results and I get the feeling that im doing it for nothing. I think this is something that we all go through. The loss of motivation or feeling like the goal is impossible. I was able to regroup and check back in with myself and I learned a couple of things about myself and the journey.

For one, I set goals that were small and large. For example, I had daily, weekly and monthly goals that I set for myself. Once a week, typically Sunday I made sure to check in evaluating if I’m completing those goals, if I need to challenge myself more or bring it down a notch. I would do these check-ins regardless of if I’m feeling motivated or not. The outcome is that I was able to reach each goal that I set for myself. I also did not feel shame for having the reduce how strict I was being. Everyday is not going to be the same and it’s ok to readjust.

Second, I worked on my discipline. Which to me is the hardest trait to improve on. Ultimately, what it boils down to is me vs me and no one else. When I have goals I want to accomplish I will literally put blinders on and focus on the goal. Discipline is something that comes from within. No one can make you discipled and by not being disciplined and following through for yourself you are literally cheating yourself out of the life that you dream of. This is what I have to remind myself especially on the days when I want to give up or even when I just want to be lazy.

Third, comparison is the thief of joy. This kind of goes off my previous thoughts. Something that I heard from the internet I’m sure is that you don’t know what is going on behind closed doors and that’s why you don’t watch other people. My mail goal was to lose weight. This has been something I’ve wanted to do in my adult life but never quit locked in. As I started my 90 day journey I would periodically get on social media and see people that I would presume were “bigger” than me have these huge transformations and be discouraged because how can someone who is deemed larger able to lose more weight. What I failed to take into account is serval factors, for one, I have no idea what their eating habits are, their workout splits, if they had medial help, the list goes on. So while I am happy to see other people win I continuously had to remind myself go mind the business that pays me.

Lastly, I learned to lock in. This is a culmination of everything. By focusing on my goals, keeping blinders on and continually checking with myself I learned that I could do anything as long as I lock in. Literally anything is possible and the world is available as long as you want it and go after it.

I know this was all over the place but that’s why you love the way I write ❤